How To Host A "Grown Up" Tea Party

Remember when you were little, and you gathered up your best stuffed animal friends for an impromptu tea party, huddled in a circle on the floor drinking "tea" and eating cookies while dishing the latest gossip?

Can you believe what Tigger said?!? Oh, gurrll....

How To Host A "Grown Up" Tea Party

​If you're not much of a party animal (like me), and don't have the room or the budget for hosting keggers and raves (also like me) hosting a tea party is the perfect way to enjoy the good company of good friends!
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​Hosting a tea party can be as simple or as elaborate as you like, but really, you don't need much.  Set the scene with some good quality tea, a bit of finger food, some inexpensive flowers and gentle background music for ambiance. Whether it be elevenses, lunch tea or high tea, remember that fun is the most important ingredient!

The Invitation:
A paper invitation is not necessary for your tea party--an email invitation is completely acceptable (provided you have everyone's email address, that is).  It's also a sweet and thoughtful touch that will set the tone for your get together.  I wouldn't get too fancy with the design; instead, stick with something floral, colorful and/or feminine.  What I wouldn't suggest?  An invite over text message.  In my opinion, it's way too informal and seems completely last minute and not very considerate.
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The Decor:
When I think of a tea party, I envision dainty tablecloths and delicate china.  If you don't happen to have these on hand, you can always scour your local thrift stores and Goodwills for inexpensive cups, plates and linens.  Patterns don't necessary have to match, but you might want to keep your color scheme consistent.  Not up for a scavenger hunt?  A great alternative is paper goods (and frankly, my way to go--inexpensive, easy to clean up and less dishes to wash).

I do admit, however, that while I love the ease of disposable plates, cups and napkins, I do use cloth tablecloths and real cutlery and silverware.  Add your tea kettle, a small creamer and sugar combo and a few silver colored trays for food and dessert (and/or a tiered cake stand, like the one above) and your table is all set!
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Talking Tables Vintage Tea Party Supplies, amazon.com

3 Tier Porcelain Cake Stand, amazon.com

Want to kick your tablescape up a notch?  Grab some inexpensive flowers and a bit of greenery from the market and put together a pretty bouquet or two.  Purchase what's in season:  tulips in spring, mums in fall, etc.  It doesn't have to be anything elaborate; depending on the size of your table, a few small arrangements and/or potted plants are really all you need.  Just be sure to cut the stems of the bouquets on the short side; you don't want to have speak to your guests through a garden of flowers!

The Location:
Speaking of gardens, your tea party doesn't necessarily have to take place in your dining room or at the kitchen table, either.  If the weather is pleasant, consider a shaded spot outside such as a garden, patio or deck.  These are all perfect locales for a tea party, especially during the warm spring and summer months.

The Music:
Music for a tea party should be gentle, not too loud nor too up tempo.  Mozart, Debussy and Chopin are the perfect backdrop for your fete. Keep the volume low (and in the background) so as not to interfere with your stimulating conversation! Make sure your phone and Bluetooth speaker are both charged, and find a nice classical station on Pandora, iTunes or Spotify.

Is your TV in or around the same spot as your party?  Here's 4+ hours of beautiful classical music set to a roaring fireplace background--voila--ambiance!

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The Food:
A tea party is not a tea party without finger sandwiches and bite-sized sweet treats.  In my opinion, everything at a tea party should be eaten with your fingers...daintily, of course!  I feel the only flatware on the table should be teaspoons and serving utensils.

​​Roast Beef & Horseradish Cream:
Spread horseradish cream on rye cocktail bread. Sandwich with sliced cucumber, roast beef and watercress; season with salt and pepper.

Salmon & Cucumber:
Spread softened cream cheese on plain white bread. Sandwich with smoked salmon and sliced cucumber, sprinkle lightly with chopped fresh dill. Trim the crusts and cut into fours.

Egg Salad & Watercress:
Spread your favorite egg salad on plain white bread.  Top with watercress.  Trim the crusts and cut into triangles.

Add delicate cornichons, olives and cheese tidbits for the perfect accompaniments.

The Tea:
There is something to be said about serving good tea at a tea party rather than plain old every day tea. And thankfully nature has given us thousands of varieties to choose from--green, oolong and orange pekoe--just to name a few.  Try different teas and tea blends, and think about adding loose teas as well as bagged teas to the mix. â€‹

Twinings of London Gift Box Sampler, amazon.com

​If you have the space, perhaps you can set up a tea bar with a kettle and trivet, along with an assortment of teas, and accoutrements such as milk, half and half, sugar cubes, sugar alternative, lemon slices and honey.  

We ADORE this British Royal porcelain tea set, available in several colors, amazon.com

Desserts:
For dessert, we suggest you simply pick up an assortment of mini pastries from your favorite bakery.  Petit fours, truffles, madelaines and macarons served on inexpensive silver trays lined with white paper doilies (both of which can be found at the dollar store) are affordable, sweet treats to serve guests with tea. If you're feeling ambitious and want to bake, go for it!

via TreatsbuyTerri on etsy.com

Another fun idea are iced sugar cookies with your guests' initials on them.  Wrapped in clear cellophane and tied off with a ribbon, these cookies double as a place setting AND a takeaway treat!  Your bakery should be able to decorate an iced sugar cookie with a single initial for cheap, or you can check out Terri's etsy shop, left, for great monogrammed options.

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We hope you enjoyed these ideas for a "grown up" tea party and we hope they inspired you to host a tea party of your own!  If you like the ideas and suggestions in this post, we've created a shopping list for you based on it.  Simply click the cute little tea cups below to download the .pdf and print!

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Have you hosted a tea party before?  How did yours turn out?  If you have any additional ideas, comments or suggestions, leave a note in the comments below!

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